Saturday, 22 November 2014

A Smile A Day - November 23rd














Homeless man, dog help each other through hard times

Every day, rain or shine, Pete Buchmann walks five miles to visit his best friend, Buster.
Buchmann and Buster were inseparable until July, when Buchmann's financial resources were depleted and he found himself homeless, with no way to care for his 9-year-old pet.
"When I couldn't pay my rent any more, I moved across the street into the backyard of an empty house," Buchmann said. "I pitched a two-man tent, and it was kind of fun for about a week, but it wasn't good for Buster."
He asked police where he could take Buster, so he would be cared for until Buchman could get on his feet again. He was given contact information for Faithful Friends Animal Society in Wilmington.
His first two calls to the no-kill shelter couldn't be returned because his cell phone kept dying. Most people didn't seem open to letting him charge his phone. On his third try, he left a description of where he and Buster could be found in Claymont.
"We drove out and found them," said Lou Henderson, manager of the shelter's dog department. "We also took Pete a goodie bag with some food and things in it to help him. We brought Buster back with us and gave him his own room."
Executive Director Jane Pierantozzi was surprised, but not unhappy, to come into work and find the Rottweiler-boxer mix ensconced in one of the shelter's meet-and-greet rooms, which had been turned into an "apartment" for Buster.
"Since the financial crisis, so many people have had to give up their pets, and we have been able to place them, but Buster isn't adoptable," she said. "He's old, he has arthritis, and he's protective of and attached to Pete. Dogs like that can go down fast in a shelter. We knew if he went to a kill shelter he wouldn't survive."
According to petsofthehomeless.org, 3.5 million Americans are homeless. Between 5 percent and 10 percent of the homeless have dogs and/or cats. In some parts of the county, the rate is 24 percent.
Buchmann never dreamed he find himself in that group, living in the Sunday Breakfast Mission and unable to find a job at age 54. He'd been working since he graduated from high school, installing fiber optics, construction and several other jobs. But when the economy took a downturn, so did his life.
"I'm not your stereotypical homeless person," he said. "I don't drink, and I don't do drugs. There are a lot of very smart people living at the mission who are just down on their luck."
The Long Island native came to Wilmington a year and a half ago after his sister and mother, for whom he was the primary caregiver for seven years, died within weeks of each other.
Like millions of Americans hit by the financial crisis, full-time jobs turned to part-time jobs, and then into no jobs. He finally sold his car to try and hold on to his $800-a-month apartment until he could find a full-time job, but the money ran out. Never married, he has no children and no relatives to turn to.
But he has Buster.
"I am just amazed at his attitude," Pierantozzi said. "He walks two-and-a-half miles each way every day to see Buster, and then he spends two or three hours helping us walk the dogs. Most people in his situation would be depressed and angry, but he isn't."
Pierantozzi has been so impressed with Buchmann's devotion to Buster, his demeanor and his willingness to work that she is reaching out to her contacts in hopes of finding him a full-time job. He's also working a few hours a week at the shelter, but since the shelter is 100 percent funded by donations and funding is down this month, there's no room in the budget for more.
"Pete has been so resilient through all his trials," she said. "It's bad enough to lose your home, but to not know what's going to happen to your pet is horrible. I just hope there are people out there that can help."
Buster has settled into his new routine, walking slowly with Buchmann or his favorite shelter employees and volunteers on what has become his habitual route and playing with his favorite toy, an orange tennis ball.
Buchmann is counting his blessing for having a clean, Christian place to live and for Faithful Friends making a special exception for Buster, with whom he hopes to be reunited soon.
"He's my buddy; he's been with me through everything," he said. "He seems content here, and he knows now that I'm coming back, that he hasn't been deserted.
"Faithful Friends helped me save my faithful friend. I'll be grateful forever. I have nothing to complain about."
Contact Deb Lucas at dlucas@delawareonline.com or call her at (302) 324-2852. Find her on Facebook at facebook.com/deblucas and on Twitter @DelPets.
UPDATE
Bachmann writes: "I am overwhelmed with the responses to help me and Buster. Thank everyone for me. I don't feel like I deserve it when so many others deserve help, too. I know that Jesus is taking care of me through all of these compassionate people."
Staff members at Faithful Friends Animal Society have been so overwhelmed with calls that Jane Pierantozzi, Faithful Friends executive director, is asking people who want the help to contact her directly at jane@faithfulfirends.us or (302) 427-8514, ext. 106.
Here is a list from Faithful Friends on how members of the community can help:
  • Full-time job: A volunteer is helping Bachmann with his resume and are preparing him for interviews
  • Dart Bus passes for transportation (prefer over bike, used car to get to job once he gets a job is ideal)
  • A pet-friendly apartment, small house or trailer to rent in New Castle County (Newark through Claymont is best) on the bus route – about $700 max two bedroom
  • Money for Bachmann and Buster will be put in a checking account for basic needs like clothes to help them get started again once he gets a place
  • Direct support to Faithful Friends Animal Society for Buster's care: $18 a day or $540 a month. Every gift is matched. Someone can make a one-time gift via check or credit card, online www.faithfulfriends.usor join its Angel Program, a monthly donor program to provide for Buster's care and other animal residents in need (Faithful Friends has 470 animal in care)
  • Bachmann needs a small storage place donated until he gets a place for his clothes and some other small items stored at St. Patrick's
  • Bachmann's immediate need is for size 12 wide work boots and an extra-large Carhartt work jacket
  • Buster likes beef jerky treats, marrow or Dingo bones.
Emails and calls from as far away as Louisville also have been pouring into The News Journal, offering a home-cooked Thanksgiving dinner, money, bicycles, clothing, dog food, rides to and from the Sunday Breakfast Mission, bus passes and, most importantly, job leads for Buchmann.
A conversation between readers has been ongoing all day on the delawareonline Facebook page, where people are offering to pitch in on clothing, suggestions about employment, etc., and one News Journal reader has started a Help Pete Buchmann Get a Car account for donations at gofundme.com/hmixds.
Buchmann is living at the Sunday Breakfast Mission in Wilmington, which is seeking donations of food and other items to see them through the holidays. Anyone who wants to offer help to the homeless shelter can go to sundaybreakfastmission.org or call The Rev. Tom Laymon at (302) 293-7767.
MORE ABOUT FAITHFUL FRIENDS
Faithful Friends' Food Bank provides food for dogs and cats as well as supplies such as leashes, collars, bowls and toys to pet owners having trouble making ends meet. Go to faithfulfriends.us or call (302) 427-8514.
Pet owners needing dog and cat food also can contact First State Animal Center and SPCA in Camden for an appointment, fsac-spca.org, (302) 943-6032, or the Delaware Humane Association in Wilmington, dehumane.org, (302) 571-0111.
A reminder: In this season of giving, all shelters could use donations of food, bedding and more, as well as volunteers to help.


Tuesday, 18 November 2014

A Smile A Day - November 19th










                                            Can you find the sniper?  Quick before he shoots you





20 Things to Remember If You Love a Person with ADD


It’s a fact; a person with ADD is hard to love. You never know what to say. It’s like walking through a minefield. You tiptoe around; unsure which step (or word) will be the one that sets off an explosion of emotion. It’s something you try to avoid.
People who have ADD/ADHD are suffering. Life is more difficult for them than the average person. Everything is intense and magnified. Their brilliant minds are constantly in gear creating, designing, thinking and never resting. Imagine what it would feel like to have a merry-go-round in your mind that never stops spinning.
From emotional outbursts to polar opposite extremes; ADD presents several behaviors that can be harmful to relationships. ADD is a mysterious condition of opposites and extremes. For instance, when it comes to concentration, people with ADD cannot concentrate when they are emotional or when their thoughts are distracted. However, when they are interested in a specific topic, they zone in so deep that it’s hard to pull them out of that zone. Starting a project is a challenge; but stopping it is an even bigger challenge.
True love is unconditional, but ADD presents situations that test your limits of love. Whether it’s your child, boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse or soon-to-be spouse, ADD tests every relationship. The best way to bring peace into both your lives is to learn a new mindset to deal with the emotional roller-coaster that ADD brings all-day-every-day.
Understanding what a person with ADD feels like will help you become more patient, tolerant, compassionate, and loving. Your relationships will become more enjoyable and peaceful. This is what goes on in the mind of a person with ADD/ADHD:

1. They have an active mind

The ADD brain doesn’t stop. There’s no on/off switch. There are no brakes that bring it to a halt. It is a burden that one must learn to manage.

2. They listen but don’t absorb what is being said

A person with ADD will look at you, hear your words, watch your lips move, but after the first five words their mind is on a journey. They can still hear you speak, but their thoughts are in outer space. They are thinking about how your lips are moving or how your hair is out of place.

3. They have difficulty staying on task

Instead of keeping the focus on what’s in front of them, people with ADD are staring at the colors in the painting on the wall. Like walking through a labyrinth, they start moving in one direction, but keep changing directions to find the way out.

4. They become anxious easily

As deep thinkers, they are sensitive to whatever is going on around them. Being in a noisy restaurant can sound like you are standing in the front row at a Metallica concert. A depressing news snippet can set them into end-of-the-world mode.
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5. They can’t concentrate when they are emotional

If there is something worrisome going on, or if they are upset, a person with ADD cannot think of anything else. This makes concentration on work, conversation, and social situations almost impossible.

6. They concentrate too intensely

When the doors of their mind open, the person with ADD dives in like a scuba diver jumping into the deep ocean.

7. They have difficulty stopping a task when they are in the zone

And under the deep ocean is where they stay for hours. Even when their oxygen is running low, if they are enjoying the view, they won’t come up for air until they’re almost out of oxygen.

8. They are unable to regulate their emotions

For a person with ADD, their emotions are flying wild, out of proportion and cannot be contained. The tangled wires in their brilliant brains make thought and feelings difficult to process. They need extra time to get their systems up and running properly.

9. They have verbal outbursts

Their intense emotions are hard to regulate. Since they impulsively say whatever they think, they often say things they later regret. It’s almost impossible for them to edit their words before they release them.

10. They have social anxiety

Feeling uncomfortable knowing that they are different, people with ADD are often uncomfortable in social situations. They are afraid they will say something foolish or react inappropriately. Holding back feels safer.

11. They are deeply intuitive

For people with ADD, the surface is an invisible exterior that they penetrate. They see beyond it. This is the most enjoyable aspect of ADD. This inspirational trait is what makes creative geniuses. Inventors, artists, musicians, and writers thrive in this zone.

12. They think out of the box

Another wonderful aspect of ADD is that because they think differently, their abstract minds see solutions to problems that the concrete thinker cannot see.

13. They are impatient and fidgety

Annoyed easily, wanting things to happen immediately, and constantly playing with their phones, twirling their hair, or bouncing their leg up and down; a person with ADD needs constant motion. It’s a calming Zen activity for them.

14. They are physically sensitive

Pencils feel heavy in their hand. Fibers in fabric that most people wouldn’t feel can be itchy. Beds are bumpy. Food has textures you can’t imagine. Like The Princess and the Pea, they can feel a pea under twenty mattresses.

15. They are disorganized

Piles are their favorite method of organizing. Once a task is complete, papers related to it are placed in a pile, where they stay until the piles grow too high. That’s when the person with ADD becomes overwhelmed, frustrated, and cleans up. People with ADD have to be careful to not become hoarders. It’s hard for a person with ADD to keep things in order because their brain doesn’t function in an orderly manner.

16. They need space to pace

When talking on the phone or having a conversation, people with ADD think better when they are in motion. Movement is calming and brings clarity to their thoughts.
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17. They avoid tasks

Making decisions or completing tasks on time is a struggle. Not because they are lazy or irresponsible, but because their minds are full of options and possibilities. Choosing one can be problematic. It’s easy to avoid making decisions because they are over-thinkers. They obsess and dwell in the depths of their own minds.

18. They can’t remember simple tasks

Another paradoxical trait of ADD is memory. People with ADD can’t remember to pick up their clothes at the cleaners, milk at the grocery store, or appointments. On the other hand; they remember every comment, quote, and phone number they heard during the day. No matter how many post-its or calendar reminders they set; their distracted mind is always elsewhere. Visible items are easier to remember. That’s why they have fifteen windows open on their desktop.

19. They have many tasks going on at the same time

Due to the constant activity in their mind, once a task is finished, they are ready to move on to the next task without closing up the prior task. The more going on at once, the better. Multi-tasking is one of their favorite activites.

20. They are passionate about everything they do

The emotions, thoughts, words, and touch of a person with ADD is powerful. Everything is magnified. This is a blessing when channeled properly. When a person with ADD does something, they do it with their heart and soul. They give it all they’ve got. They are intense, perceptive, and deep. This quality is what makes the person with ADD so lovable.
Basically, a person with ADD/ADHD has trouble controlling their impulses. They also have many awesome qualities that you will enjoy once you understand how they think and feel. Compassion, empathy and patience will carry you through the most difficult times. It’s important to take extra care of yourself; take alone time regularly, do what you enjoy, find a support group, a therapist or a compassionate wise friend, take frequent vacations, meditate, find hobbies and your own passion. Most of all, learn how to breathe.

Guilty Dogs But They Didn't Do It Right ?

#1 1.) "Wait, are you saying I'm doing this wrong?"

You come home to find the garbage pail knocked over and its gross contents strewn about your house. Or maybe your couch pillows have been mangled, filling the living room with fluffy carnage. "What happened?" you moan. But there's one thing for certain.

Your dog didn't do it. No way. Look at that face. Your dog was sleeping like a little angel, or waiting loyally for you to come home. They have no idea how the garbage got knocked over or how the pillows got shredded or who ever could have done something like chew completely through the remote. They blame the cat, really. That cat is always up to no good.

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"It was burglars. They were after your pillow foam. I saved the day!"


"It was all the little one! I swear!"

"Mess? I have no idea what you're talking about. You should be concentrating on how cute I am!"

No, I've just been chewing on my bone. See? Bone. Whole time."


"It was the cat. I tried to stop him."